Emotional Intelligence: An Interview with Aimee Teesdale
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In this interview, Aimee Teesdale talks about emotional intelligence and why it is important for business and emerging musical talents.
Aimee C. Teesdale is an award-nominated life coach, trainer and speaker who helps people who feel that they’re standing in their own way of success or who have realised they need to change. For the early-part of her adulthood, Aimee was held back by low confidence, shyness, and self doubt, until she realised that the only limitations we have are the limitations of our own mind. So, she set about creating herself and the life she wanted to live, and now coaches others to do the same. As a result, her clients achieve their potential, develop their emotional intelligence, and become the person they want to be with the life they wish to live. Because life isn’t about finding yourself, it’s about creating yourself.
Aimee has over 10 years’ experience studying psychology, personal development, human behaviour, and all topics she loves. Other passions include CrossFit, wearing stilettos, and drinking coffee (not all at the same time).
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1. What is emotional intelligence?
Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognise and understand your emotions, how they drive you, and being able to manage them appropriately. Similarly, it also includes understanding the emotions of other people and how you can manage your relationships with them. People with high emotional intelligence tend to be better at things like managing stress, coping with difficulties, staying motivated, being disciplined, having empathy, good communication skills and knowing how to influence people.
2. Why is it potentially important for business and emerging musical talent?
There are a vast number of research studies which demonstrate that anything between 60-80% of the factors that differentiate between the most successful people from average performers (in any field) are due to emotional competencies. IQ, or talent, is a pre-requisite, but emotional intelligence determines the rest. An important one here for emerging musical talent would be resilience, which is our ability to bounce back from setbacks. To make it in the music industry, it requires a lot of hardwork, perseverence, motivation; and it’s not easy to deal with rejection over and over. Yet we underestimate just how much of our behaviour is driven by how we feel. When you understand this, and know how to deal with it, you’re in a much better position to be able to choose different behaviours that lead to different and better results.
3. What has been one of the hardest times of your life and how did you emerge from it?
One of the hardest times in my life was working on the cruise ships. I imagine in some ways it was similar to what a career in the music industry is like: it looks great on the outside, but sometimes very hard on the inside. My friends got to see all the fabulous photos of me in the Caribbean, but what they didn’t see was the 7 day/70-hour working weeks, the lack of close friendships, the constantly having to be in your best mood to please the guests, and the sometimes isolating conditions we worked in. For 8 months at a time I slept in a room with no window, no freedom to just go the shops or cinema if I wanted, and I’d often have to wait days to get any wi-fi to talk with anyone back home.
4. What did you learn from this experience?
Despite this I still look back on the whole experience as really positive one. I focused on the things it gave me, like making me incredibly resilient and hard-working. These are fundamental qualities you need when running a business. I got to meet people from all over the world and visit places most people never get chance to. I also always remembered, that being there was entirely my choice. And I could have chosen a different choice at any time. Knowing that helped me remember the reasons I was there and the positives I was getting from it too.
5. Please share a book and film/documentary you feel everyone should add to their list.
A book that changed my life is ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway’ by Susan Jeffers. It taught me so much about building a life that I was proud of, as well as totally changing the way I thought about fear. It will help everyone to become more confident in their decision-making, to make bold moves (even if they’re scary), and to design a life with lots of different aspects, so if for some reason something isn’t quite working out in one area, it doesn’t start to feel like your whole life is going downhill.